Am I A Fraud?

I need to admit something - I have felt like a fraud. I speak and write all about gut health, the benefits of bone broth, and share as much research on the microbiome as I can…. all while mine is a complete mess. It is at times embarrassing. Who am I to talk of the benefits of bone broth while I look the way I do? While I struggle with anxiety, panic attacks, food intolerances, bloating, toxicity, obesity, autoimmune disease in the form of hashimoto's hypothyroid, fibromyalgia, lupus and chronic fatigue syndrome…. How can I claim to know what is good for healing when I can’t seem to heal myself?

Look, it's me

I know I'm not alone. Some of you must know the feeling.

I wake up and I don't know who I am. I don't understand this fatigue. I clamber out of bed and find my body unable to straighten, my legs unable to support me and my feet completely numb. I'm exhausted. I'm not young anymore, I'm 40, but I'm certainly not old. I feel like I'm 90. I huddle into a ball and quietly sob.

My body no longer feels like a body should. It hurts. The fatigue is intense. I take the slow small steps away from the bed, attempting to elongate my spine, hoping to reach a vertical standing position, but I know this won't be possible for at least 10 minutes. My calves cramp with each step in waves of pain as I walk in awkward positions to try and accommodate for the pain. Slowly other muscles join the rebellious chant and I wonder what I did to deserve this. Or am I just getting older?

My body has been giving me grief for five years. And if I had really listened it had been shouting at me for 10 years before that. But I hadn't listened. I'd merely told it to be quiet and continued to push it beyond it's capabilities. I pushed myself to do exercise, despite every inch of my being rejecting the idea. I am fat. So I surf, I swim, I cycle, I box, and lift weight. I continue gaining weight. I'm so tired. My life must appear perfect and easy on the outside whilst I am internally dying. "Push past the pain", I'd say. "Ignore the fatigue... if you stop you're just being lazy".

Looking in the bathroom mirror,  I am shocked. Who is this person? I remember vitality, energy, fitness, tone and a twinkle in the eye. A girl that was ready to take on the world. Accept any adventure. Perform any task asked of her. All I could see staring back at me was a shell. Soulless, defeated, tired, aged, unhealthy and finished. All I wanted was to go back to bed. But I must get on with the day. Kids need me. My partner needs me. My business needs me. There is no defeat. Stop being lazy!

It has taken me a long time to become comfortable to share this information. To reveal the lack of perfection. This is what makes my knowledge valuable. To make myself vulnerable before you and give hope to some of you who are suffering in silence. You are not alone. I realise there is no point in experiencing what I have experienced and not sharing. In knowing what I have learnt if it's not to help others. I am not here to dictate the answers, I'm just sharing what I have experienced and hope in doing so you feel safe to follow. You can't know something fullly until you've experienced it, which is why we so often become frustrated with doctors who disregard our symptoms and make us feel like hypochondriacs.

How can we learn to thrive with what we have? How can we learn to acknowledge we have a condition but it doesn't have to prevent us from performing at the best of our abilities right now! What tools can we draw upon to excel despite how we feel in our health?

I am not a fraud. I am a work in progress. And the day I stop learning is the day I stop growing. The universe hit me with a big "slow down" stick and when I didn't listen it simply FORCED me to stop. It has taught me to listen to signs, to observe the small signals that are constantly in my path. To become in tune with my physical being and respect what it is telling me.

Some days are days to submit to the fatigue and stay in bed or on the couch having a trash tv movie fest (did someone say Grey's Anatomy????). Some days are ok to push and test the waters, quite literally for me, and go for a swim in the ocean... my special place, that place that makes me feel alive.

It's a constant juggle to find balance, and that balance is ever shifting as I work towards optimal health. But I've stopped resenting this "illness" that slows me down. I've stopped fighting it and am now just at peace with what it is and that alone is making a huge difference.

Here's to a future of happy, healthier guts.





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I can identify with almost everything you are going through, plus a few others.

My experience has been that the more I push myself, the worse my pain becomes. Stress has the biggest impact on me overall, though (which wasn’t improved by my husband walking out on me last year because I wasn’t able to pull my weight around the house). When my stress levels are lower, I am able to push myself more physically without flaring.

Unfortunately, I’ve had to deal with one major stressor after another over the last year and a half and subsequently, my health (which had been improving) has become substantially worse, particularly since Christmas.

I’m looking for options to help me manage my physiological response to the stressors in my life better and was wondering whether bone broth might help at all. In looking for answers I came across this post which I had bookmarked ages ago! I noticed that it is from 2016, and although you weren’t doing well at the time of writing, I’m wondering whether bone broth has helped you at all since then and if so, in what ways? Have you found other things that have made a difference to your health? If you can suggest anything that is reasonably affordable, I would appreciate it very much. Money is one of the ongoing stressors in my life, though, so I’m not in a position to even consider anything that would increase my grocery bills by much at all.


It’s the special people like you who are turning the tide. You are an amazing soul and this is your journey and even to inspire one other person which you are doing is inspirational. It gives hope to others who are in a position like you. Accepting and then managing as you do is truly amazing!

Jmia Laithe

Reading this hit home. The joys of life just gone. I won’t give up ever but at times I wish to. No health no life. I’ve been sick all my life . I don’t know life without tummy ache or body pain . God bless all the sick people . I just pray for everyone
I’m excited to get as much bone broth into me . Thanks to my daughter Jessica . I don’t eat meat so it’s taken along to convince me. But I’m desperate and want to play with my grandchildren ???


Learning to listen to whispers is so hard, then knowing the answers, but not feeling like you are the success story yet is also hard… I hear you and totally understand and get it, also totally love your search for information and ability to never give up, you are open, honest and real… just what the world needs from you and Broth of Life xxx


I’m sorry to hear you’re having such a difficult time. Reading your blog, I wonder whether you’ve heard of something called Pyrrole Disorder?


Gosh you are having a time of it. I hope you start feeling better soon and I think you are marvelous to start a business when you have health issues going on. More strength and many Blessings to you.


I am 40. Hashi’s, hypothyroidism, CFS, POTs and probably a whole host of things I can’t be bothered chasing anymore. I came off meds about 3 years ago, sent it all into remission but got too comfortable and forgot to manage diet and stress and am back at square 1. I am determined to reverse it again!!

The only hope of healing is being honest with yourself (and others). And you have done that! Congrats on your honesty!!


Thank you for sharing Alison. Many people hide whatever pain they are feeling and are not brave enough to let others in. So thank you again.


Thank you for being so honest Alison. It helps others like me who also face each day with chronic illness.


This was so honest, so much so that I think so many of your readers could have written it themselves as they also live it every day.
The feeling of being fraudulent I feel also comes from trying to mask the anxiety and the pain from everyone you interact with, we are not honest with anyone. So this was really appreciated.
Thanks and keep fighting the fight with us.


I think it takes pnes who understands to write about how it feels to be intolerant to so much, to be tired for no obvious reason, and to look like hell doing everything ‘right’. It is a long long journey to heal the gut and I have often had the very same thoughts. You are helping many.


Thank you for sharing – that took courage – you are not alone.


Thank you for sharing – that took courage – you are not alone.

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